Also worth noting that this process is not easy, and having an objective helper who will help you hold yourself accountable, in the form of a "therapist" of som

Also worth noting that this process is not easy, and having an objective helper who will help you hold yourself accountable, in the form of a "therapist" of some stripe, is super helpful. That person can help directly with several of these steps: noticing and characterizing the problem; exploring the unspoken assumptions; and formulating alternatives and plans.