Conflating the use of the word bullying by people trying to deflect their own misdeeds with actual, real world bullying of people based on their race, their sex

Conflating the use of the word bullying by people trying to deflect their own misdeeds with actual, real world bullying of people based on their race, their sexual preference or even just their perceived weakness when compared to others seems like a convenient excuse to continue to let the strong continue to bully the weak. People have committed suicide over online bullying. Were those people liars who attacked the weak and thus deserved the harassment they received from others? Who did a person on Instagram who is made fun of because of their looks "bully", using your definition, to deserve the negative attention they received? What platform did the Star Wars kid abuse to warrant all the laughter and derision he suffered? People who abuse a position of authority and then hide behind claims of harassment or bullying deserve to be called out; but let's not pretend they are somehow a majority and that actual bullying leading to people either harming themselves or shutting themselves off completely from society is not a real problem.