Our 4 year old wakes up about 6am (give or take 45 minutes) and as soon as she knows I'm awake, wants to read, talk, play together. Our 7 year old gets to bed a

Our 4 year old wakes up about 6am (give or take 45 minutes) and as soon as she knows I'm awake, wants to read, talk, play together. Our 7 year old gets to bed at 7:45 in the evening, which is early compared to his friends. All the time outside of work between 6am and 7:45 pm is dominated by them. In the nicest possible way - but it's full on. All the time. My wife and I are both very tired by 7:45pm, need some social / couple time, but have so little mental energy to do anything beyond chores / essentials that all pre kids hobbies are waaaaay deprioritised. Say we have friends over once a week, a date night once a week, a social / community engagement once a week, a rest evening, it's like 4 evenings (8pm until 10pm...) max available for anything - with brains like mush. Add in chores, finances, shopping, contacting relatives and others...