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I’m unclear what the risk is in asking someone out for coffee, lunch, concert, or whatever. Just be polite and accept a no of given. What am I missing?
by amanaplanacanal 5y ago
I’m unclear what the risk is in asking someone out for coffee, lunch, concert, or whatever. Just be polite and accept a no of given. What am I missing?
- collegeburner 5y agoIt's a chilling effect. Most of the time it's fine and no problem, I haven't had many issues. But it seems like everybody has a friend of a friend who had a problem and that is often enough to dissuade, even if some cases are untrue or exaggerated, that doesn't matter because thats how chilling effect works. Low likelihood but very high impact.
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- mkr-hn 5y agoThis might be a relative of pluralistic ignorance: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Pluralistic_ignorance https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Pluralistic_ignorance Everyone knows it's overkill, but nobody wants to be the exception that proves the rule.
- ModernMech 5y agoWhen no one has direct experience of a thing, but everyone has heard vague second-hand stories about a thing, that's a good indication the thing is a rumor, or a rare situation that somehow got blown out of proportion and misrepresented as a common case.
- HKH2 5y agoElevatorgate: 'coffee' == 'sex'
- amanaplanacanal 5y agoYeah don’t ask somebody to have coffee in your hotel room. That’s just dumb.