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I went to 3 weddings this year, and each couple being married met on dating apps. If anything my single friends biggest complaint is that apps are the defacto

by ssully 5y ago

I went to 3 weddings this year, and each couple being married met on dating apps. If anything my single friends biggest complaint is that apps are the defacto way of dating, even before the pandemic. Your options were basically apps, mutual introduction, or bars. Even bars I would say were slowing down, at least amongst my age group, because everyone was so busy with work, or just general life stuff. Also you are dating yourself with that last sentence.

collegeburner 5y ago
Yeah that's what I mean, dating apps are more a thing when most people start looking to settle down. > Also you are dating yourself with that last sentence. Nice pun but no, I am typical college age. I dont see how it's "dating myself" to not want to marry somebody in 7-10 years who hooks up a lot now.
- mattzito 5y ago
  What would you define as "a lot"?
  - collegeburner 5y ago
    Greater than 1 time? I get if somebody gets drunk and makes a call they regret later but wouldnt want somebody who hooked up a lot as a pattern of behavior. For me, and for the people I know who want long term relationships (guys and girls), none of us want somebody who sleep around a lot ages 18 to 35 then decide to settle down and get married. Seems guys are more averse to this though, tbh I dont much like the idea of marrying somebody after her most attractive years are past, and waiting 35 years of my life for a stable relationship before then. Out of curiosity what would you define as "a lot"?
    - mattzito 5y ago
      > greater than 1 time Most people have ~5-8 sexual partners, so that’s not that likely. As far as what I think is a lot, if I’m seeing someone who slept around a lot, if they did it because they enjoy sex and were having healthy sexual relationships, I really don’t care about the number. If anything, the women who have more experience are more open and confident. I guess the last time I thought “man maybe that’s getting to be a high number”, a friend of mine crossed the 50-partner mark. Sooo, I suppose that’s the general zone of “a lot”. But I don’t ascribe any moral or character issues to that number.
    - ModernMech 5y ago
      > I dont much like the idea of marrying somebody after her most attractive years are past Here's a little unsolicited advice from one older man to a younger one, take it or leave it: As you age, you will find older women more attractive, and younger women less attractive. I dunno why that is; maybe this is because older women no longer resemble your mother (because she's aged as well), and younger women start to resemble your own children (who you shouldn't be attracted to). But I've found it to be true. If you have a relationship with the same woman over a long period of time (long meaning decades), you'll find yourself attracted to her at any age, and increasingly over the years. You'll see, even as her looks fade (and they will, just as yours will) you will still find her more attractive than when she was ostensibly "in her prime".

by ssully 5y ago

collegeburner 5y ago

Yeah that's what I mean, dating apps are more a thing when most people start looking to settle down. > Also you are dating yourself with that last sentence. Nice pun but no, I am typical college age. I dont see how it's "dating myself" to not want to marry somebody in 7-10 years who hooks up a lot now.

mattzito 5y ago
What would you define as "a lot"?
- collegeburner 5y ago
  Greater than 1 time? I get if somebody gets drunk and makes a call they regret later but wouldnt want somebody who hooked up a lot as a pattern of behavior. For me, and for the people I know who want long term relationships (guys and girls), none of us want somebody who sleep around a lot ages 18 to 35 then decide to settle down and get married. Seems guys are more averse to this though, tbh I dont much like the idea of marrying somebody after her most attractive years are past, and waiting 35 years of my life for a stable relationship before then. Out of curiosity what would you define as "a lot"?
  - mattzito 5y ago
    > greater than 1 time Most people have ~5-8 sexual partners, so that’s not that likely. As far as what I think is a lot, if I’m seeing someone who slept around a lot, if they did it because they enjoy sex and were having healthy sexual relationships, I really don’t care about the number. If anything, the women who have more experience are more open and confident. I guess the last time I thought “man maybe that’s getting to be a high number”, a friend of mine crossed the 50-partner mark. Sooo, I suppose that’s the general zone of “a lot”. But I don’t ascribe any moral or character issues to that number.
  - ModernMech 5y ago
    > I dont much like the idea of marrying somebody after her most attractive years are past Here's a little unsolicited advice from one older man to a younger one, take it or leave it: As you age, you will find older women more attractive, and younger women less attractive. I dunno why that is; maybe this is because older women no longer resemble your mother (because she's aged as well), and younger women start to resemble your own children (who you shouldn't be attracted to). But I've found it to be true. If you have a relationship with the same woman over a long period of time (long meaning decades), you'll find yourself attracted to her at any age, and increasingly over the years. You'll see, even as her looks fade (and they will, just as yours will) you will still find her more attractive than when she was ostensibly "in her prime".