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I dont have to imagine, I am. Its definitely kinda iffy compared to what Ive heard it used to be, though not impossible, but its risky to politely ask out a gir
by collegeburner 5y ago
I dont have to imagine, I am. Its definitely kinda iffy compared to what Ive heard it used to be, though not impossible, but its risky to politely ask out a girl you dont know well these days. Its made worse by the fact that a lot of guys are in some majors and a lot of girls are in others, zoom means we dont meet each other so much these days.
- amanaplanacanal 5y agoI’m unclear what the risk is in asking someone out for coffee, lunch, concert, or whatever. Just be polite and accept a no of given. What am I missing?
- collegeburner 5y agoIt's a chilling effect. Most of the time it's fine and no problem, I haven't had many issues. But it seems like everybody has a friend of a friend who had a problem and that is often enough to dissuade, even if some cases are untrue or exaggerated, that doesn't matter because thats how chilling effect works. Low likelihood but very high impact.
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- mkr-hn 5y agoThis might be a relative of pluralistic ignorance: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Pluralistic_ignorance https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Pluralistic_ignorance Everyone knows it's overkill, but nobody wants to be the exception that proves the rule.
- ModernMech 5y agoWhen no one has direct experience of a thing, but everyone has heard vague second-hand stories about a thing, that's a good indication the thing is a rumor, or a rare situation that somehow got blown out of proportion and misrepresented as a common case.
- HKH2 5y agoElevatorgate: 'coffee' == 'sex'
- amanaplanacanal 5y agoYeah don’t ask somebody to have coffee in your hotel room. That’s just dumb.