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People can barely get the house to put the kid in. That’s the first milestone and if you can’t do that, you pretty much back off from all other shit. Oh, and d
by crate_barre 5y ago
People can barely get the house to put the kid in. That’s the first milestone and if you can’t do that, you pretty much back off from all other shit.
Oh, and dating in the west is a complete game. The East usually go by family connections, but in the West it’s a game and the game got super harder with social media and unrealistic expectations.
So that’s a barrier too. I dunno, nothing feels normal anymore.
Personal anecdote - I want to do all these things, but holy shit did it get harder and weirder.
- sokoloff 5y agoI did my dating before social media really took off, but my intuitive sense is that, for people who want to eventually settle down with a partner, the game will settle out on pretty close to “an ass for every saddle” just like it always has and that people complained it was hard N*10 years ago for every value of N. It’s hard because it takes a lot of your mental energy and feels very high-stakes. In the worst of the pandemic, I’ll adopt that it probably got legitimately harder, but that’s easing quickly now.
- thaumasiotes 5y ago> People can barely get the house to put the kid in. That’s the first milestone and if you can’t do that, you pretty much back off from all other shit. If you think buying a house is a prerequisite to having children, you don't know much about any past or current society.
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