>people feel something and then rationalize the logic to justify their feeling Kind of sounds like projection. Depending on who you ask, it's generally underst

>people feel something and then rationalize the logic to justify their feeling Kind of sounds like projection. Depending on who you ask, it's generally understood in psychology that children raised by cold/rejecting/invalidating/selfish/abusive parents develop it to cope with having age-appropriate emotions that offend their parents. It could be perceived as a way to manipulate/convince the cold/rejecting parents into giving them what the child needs (food, attention, etc.) without feeling bad for having their age-appropriate, healthy needs - a habit that outlasts its need and stays through adulthood to the detriment of everyone. A healthy response would be to not feel bad for having feelings and, due to successfully developing self-acceptance, integrate/communicate all their emotions and rationality in a healthy way.