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It's actually quite a modern idea that instead of controlling your own response to someone, you are better off responding as poorly as possible and blaming the

It's actually quite a modern idea that instead of controlling your own response to someone, you are better off responding as poorly as possible and blaming the person who you're responding to "for making you do it". It's not good. Any gamers here will be familiar with the new "tilt" slang and how it actually places the blame on anyone but the person doing the wrong deed. I do not enjoy this new world of blaming imaginary catalysts instead of blaming bad actors.

smt88 5y ago
> It's actually quite a modern idea that instead of controlling your own response to someone, you are better off responding as poorly as possible and blaming the person who you're responding to "for making you do it". I disagree. Almost no human behaviors are "modern" -- sometimes frustratingly so. Historically, authorities would often blame those they subjugated for "making them" do something (monarchs, jailers, armies, etc.) It's also a very common model of spousal abuse. In general, it's easier to blame someone else when you overreact than to face your own mistakes and apologize. I don't know any reason modern society would have invented that. The impulse to shift blame is intrinsic to having the human set of emotions.
- kibbleble 5y ago
  Yeah, everyone conveniently forgets what is the second sin of Adam from the Bible (if they're subscribed to that belief system)
- seoulmetro 5y ago
  Nope. There's a difference between having the power to rewrite an idea and actually appealing to others to follow suit. In one case the other is rewriting what happened, the other is claiming that what happened was done only for the reason of _____. I don't know any logical reasons why someone would invent this. I know a fair few illogical ones. We don't really live in a logical world, constantly inventing idiocy.

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It's actually quite a modern idea that instead of controlling your own response to someone, you are better off responding as poorly as possible and blaming the

by seoulmetro 5y ago

smt88 5y ago
> It's actually quite a modern idea that instead of controlling your own response to someone, you are better off responding as poorly as possible and blaming the person who you're responding to "for making you do it". I disagree. Almost no human behaviors are "modern" -- sometimes frustratingly so. Historically, authorities would often blame those they subjugated for "making them" do something (monarchs, jailers, armies, etc.) It's also a very common model of spousal abuse. In general, it's easier to blame someone else when you overreact than to face your own mistakes and apologize. I don't know any reason modern society would have invented that. The impulse to shift blame is intrinsic to having the human set of emotions.
- kibbleble 5y ago
  Yeah, everyone conveniently forgets what is the second sin of Adam from the Bible (if they're subscribed to that belief system)
- seoulmetro 5y ago
  Nope. There's a difference between having the power to rewrite an idea and actually appealing to others to follow suit. In one case the other is rewriting what happened, the other is claiming that what happened was done only for the reason of _____. I don't know any logical reasons why someone would invent this. I know a fair few illogical ones. We don't really live in a logical world, constantly inventing idiocy.