This is a problem I've heard others talk about but I think I've been really lucky because across the three places I've worked we've had code standards and best

This is a problem I've heard others talk about but I think I've been really lucky because across the three places I've worked we've had code standards and best practices as living documents with ongoing discussions for reasoning about them and refining them. By which I don't mean that there's a constant bickering about how to do things, of course. We have standards and people adhere to them in their daily work week. But these are established not by deferring to some vague authority, but by actual debates with plenty of examples and reflection on how it applies to our own code base.