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> What the parent is getting at is solving the problem type interactions. That's part of my point though. There are problems to solve, like "this person isn't
by Zababa 5y ago
> What the parent is getting at is solving the problem type interactions.
That's part of my point though. There are problems to solve, like "this person isn't going to have any energy and still has to do all the usual living stuff", which is why bringing food, helping with housework, pets, that sort of thing is useful. But the grief itself isn't a problem looking to be solved. If you think that is a problem to solve, that's an error in your reasoning.
- ddingus 5y agoThe parent did not make the point you are currently arguing against, nor did I.
- Zababa 5y agoThen please explain me what they meant by "It's counterintuitive to logical-thinking programmers", followed by a link to a video called "It's Not About The Nail", that is about a person that has a nail in her forehead, and asking the person that seem to be her partner to stop trying to fix the nail on her forehead, but to listen to her, while she's complaining about things that could be cause by the nail on her forehead. If that's not painting "logical-thinking programmers" as people that aren't able to take emotions into account when dealing with people, I don't know what point they tried to make.
- ddingus 5y ago>I don't really like this framing that "logical-thinking programmers" can't take emotions into account. Nobody but you said "can't." It was guidance away from what some may think is helpful, and that is all it was. I would bet it was also learned from their own experiences too. What I know about grief was.