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Beyond emotional support, if they have lost a parent or are in charge of an estate for any reason, make sure they get a lawyer as quickly as possible. Common me
by MiddleEndian 5y ago
Beyond emotional support, if they have lost a parent or are in charge of an estate for any reason, make sure they get a lawyer as quickly as possible. Common media makes everyone aware of dramatic family battles which may or may not actually happen, but it does not cover the soul-sucking bureaucracy you have to deal with. The government is happy to drag it on beyond all reason. Even if you are supposed to give them money, they will give you task after task in order to actually pay them, they won't tell you all the steps in the beginning to hasten the process, and simply filing the death certificate is not enough to trigger the start of the timeline.
- chaircher 5y agoEveryone thinks their family will never battle like that, or if they do think that they mis-evaluate who the risky party is or how bad it will get. Get a solicitor/lawyer ASAP and more importantly, be wary of ANYONE who tells you you don't need one or who leaves you feeling under time pressure about things like organising the funeral or deciding how to split the estate.
- MiddleEndian 5y agoIndeed. While I happened to correct that I was not having a family battle, you may never know and a lawyer is necessary ASAP anyway. The closest analogous life experience I can think of is trying to sell or purchase a home with a mortgage, except the process can take over a year from the first time you contact a lawyer, they won't tell you when it ends or how frequently you'll need to do things, and it's much crueler as it's obviously not something you wanted to do in the first place.