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That's not a shallow dismissal. I don't understand some of these choices and I want to know why they were made. I want to know why I'm wrong.

the-dude 5y ago
Allmost all your 'questions' are closed questions and include your assumed preference. They are not really questions. The tone is belittleing ( is that a word? )
- h2odragon 5y ago
  I disagree with all your assessments. I think specific, discuss-able questions like this lead to educational answers. Asking questions about something isn't disrespectful.
  - BillieRuben 5y ago
    the way they are asked can be though, as evidenced above.
- Causality1 5y ago
  From the guidelines: Please respond to the strongest plausible interpretation of what someone says, not a weaker one that's easier to criticize. Assume good faith.
  - BillieRuben 5y ago
    I think it's now pretty obvious from your lack of reply to my responses to your questions that you didn't actually care to have your questions answered.
BillieRuben 5y ago
I think the trouble was your tone, it's important to remember that another real life human made this article.
bduffany 5y ago
Just to try and help explain why people think you have a negative tone: written words tend to be interpreted negatively by default since you can't hear the person's tone of voice, so you have to use extra words to reinforce your positive intentions, and avoid using phrases that can be construed as positive with the right tone but have negative connotations by default. For example, "Why do X when you could do Y" assumes they were aware of Y and consciously chose X over Y. It is overly presumptuous especially since you don't know them. It also carries the implication that you think Y is a better "default" choice and comes across as a prompt for them to defend why they chose X instead. It might be better phrased as "Had you considered Y instead of X, and if so, I am curious why you chose X instead?" Also the phrase "Why would you do X" kind of comes across as "Who in their right mind would do X". A better way to say it is something like "Curious about the use of X? In my experience Y works better, have you had a chance to try that yet?"
- BillieRuben 5y ago
  100% all of this. Thank you for taking the time to explain <3

the-dude 5y ago

Allmost all your 'questions' are closed questions and include your assumed preference. They are not really questions. The tone is belittleing ( is that a word? )

h2odragon 5y ago
I disagree with all your assessments. I think specific, discuss-able questions like this lead to educational answers. Asking questions about something isn't disrespectful.
- BillieRuben 5y ago
  the way they are asked can be though, as evidenced above.
Causality1 5y ago
From the guidelines: Please respond to the strongest plausible interpretation of what someone says, not a weaker one that's easier to criticize. Assume good faith.
- BillieRuben 5y ago
  I think it's now pretty obvious from your lack of reply to my responses to your questions that you didn't actually care to have your questions answered.

BillieRuben 5y ago

I think the trouble was your tone, it's important to remember that another real life human made this article.

bduffany 5y ago

Just to try and help explain why people think you have a negative tone: written words tend to be interpreted negatively by default since you can't hear the person's tone of voice, so you have to use extra words to reinforce your positive intentions, and avoid using phrases that can be construed as positive with the right tone but have negative connotations by default. For example, "Why do X when you could do Y" assumes they were aware of Y and consciously chose X over Y. It is overly presumptuous especially since you don't know them. It also carries the implication that you think Y is a better "default" choice and comes across as a prompt for them to defend why they chose X instead. It might be better phrased as "Had you considered Y instead of X, and if so, I am curious why you chose X instead?" Also the phrase "Why would you do X" kind of comes across as "Who in their right mind would do X". A better way to say it is something like "Curious about the use of X? In my experience Y works better, have you had a chance to try that yet?"

BillieRuben 5y ago
100% all of this. Thank you for taking the time to explain <3