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well dang i should have been happier in early adulthood.. stupid me

mannykannot 5y ago
At least when we were young adults we did not have this claim to worry about.
laurent92 5y ago
Yes, same feeling here. I consider my life like a tragedy in the litterature sense of the term: I knew what was going to happen, I fought and attempted to get people onboard, had psys and all, and at 38 it had exactly the trajectory I had expected. (Not that I’m not enterprising, I’ve moved abroad, created a company, but love and affection went missing because I have long been depressed and didn’t have any clue in how to make it work when young, and now I can’t stand people socially anymore, and Covid lockdowns were the nail in the coffin - I see the dementia coming like an elephant, or at least the “crazy old man” part of it).
- Guest19023892 5y ago
  I obviously don't know your life or circumstances, but try to ensure it's not a self-fulfilling prophecy where you envision a tragic life for yourself and then steer yourself in that direction. > didn’t have any clue in how to make it work when young, and now I can’t stand people socially anymore 1. You're still very young. I'm a similar age, and I'm fairly certain when we're in our 50s and 60s we'll reminisce about our younger years in our 30s and 40s. 2. There's a lot of people in the world. It's a bit unfair to group everyone together and say you "can't stand people socially anymore". You likely only need a few close people in your life for it to feel rewarding, and I'm quite certain they're out there.
- joconde 5y ago
  When I think I “can’t stand people” (which happened a lot to me from my teens to adulthood), it’s always because I’m in a bad place mentally, which can be identified and solved, or because I’m hanging out with the wrong people, which is easy to solve by meeting new ones. It’s not always easy or fast, but it’s something you can fix.
kayodelycaon 5y ago
Same boat. I’m screwed.

At least when we were young adults we did not have this claim to worry about.

Yes, same feeling here. I consider my life like a tragedy in the litterature sense of the term: I knew what was going to happen, I fought and attempted to get people onboard, had psys and all, and at 38 it had exactly the trajectory I had expected. (Not that I’m not enterprising, I’ve moved abroad, created a company, but love and affection went missing because I have long been depressed and didn’t have any clue in how to make it work when young, and now I can’t stand people socially anymore, and Covid lockdowns were the nail in the coffin - I see the dementia coming like an elephant, or at least the “crazy old man” part of it).

Guest19023892 5y ago
I obviously don't know your life or circumstances, but try to ensure it's not a self-fulfilling prophecy where you envision a tragic life for yourself and then steer yourself in that direction. > didn’t have any clue in how to make it work when young, and now I can’t stand people socially anymore 1. You're still very young. I'm a similar age, and I'm fairly certain when we're in our 50s and 60s we'll reminisce about our younger years in our 30s and 40s. 2. There's a lot of people in the world. It's a bit unfair to group everyone together and say you "can't stand people socially anymore". You likely only need a few close people in your life for it to feel rewarding, and I'm quite certain they're out there.
joconde 5y ago
When I think I “can’t stand people” (which happened a lot to me from my teens to adulthood), it’s always because I’m in a bad place mentally, which can be identified and solved, or because I’m hanging out with the wrong people, which is easy to solve by meeting new ones. It’s not always easy or fast, but it’s something you can fix.

kayodelycaon 5y ago

Same boat. I’m screwed.