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Please don’t listen to this. These are the words of someone who allowed work to destroy the part of themselves that had their own hopes and dreams. Only a shel

Please don’t listen to this. These are the words of someone who allowed work to destroy the part of themselves that had their own hopes and dreams. Only a shell that could take directions was left.

CapmCrackaWaka 5y ago
Do you know this person? Because I actually love my job, and I feel like if I retired right now it would suck. I would definitely be bored.
- gibbonsrcool 5y ago
  This is mind boggling. Bored? You have all your free time to literally do anything you want. You can explore the outdoors. You can learn ANYTHING you want. You could get to know more of the worlds 6 billion people and their cultures. Volunteer, start a new hobby, spend more time with family and friends, work on personal growth, exercise... you have Stockholm syndrome, snap out of it.
  - CapmCrackaWaka 5y ago
    Yeah that all sounds nice until you start to budget it. No way I could keep myself busy with the money I have. I guess this question really depends on if you have the financial means to retire _and keep yourself entertained for the rest of your life_. I don't. > you have Stockholm syndrome, snap out of it Very rude.
    - throwaway123x2 5y ago
      Yeah lol, some people like the structure, other people don't.
  - gota 5y ago
    Not the person you're replying to, and not retired, but I can offer some perspective as someone that does indeed like the job. If I retired I'd be able to learn anything I want - but If I wanted to tackle the challenges I have fun tackling, state-of-the-art and involving some nifty constraints and difficulties... I'd need whole teams around me, and a large infrastructure comparable to a multinational company. That's what I get now - working. If I retired, I could only find it, I think, by getting the same job. If I'm already working there, doing the stuff that I find fun, in a schedule that fits me and keeps me healthy and safe, and already relatively financially secure - to the point where I don't have to bother with focusing on corporate ladder or anything like that - what do I gain by retiring? At least on this aspect (there is obviously a tradeoff) Not to mention I get to do some empowered volunteering from within the company itself. It helps that I actually have respect for the leadership, up to the CEO, as actual human beings. Not reverence - respect. Specially looking at some other companies out there. I have a whole other perspective. But toss me into a meatgrinder job and I agree with you immediately. Finally, I hope you see how your comment on Stockholm syndrome and snapping out of it was mean and ignorant towards the parent poster
    - koz_ 5y ago
      Your comment describes my perspective almost to a T. I used to put a lot of stock in the idea of retiring early and then being free to do whatever I wanted, but what I want is to build interesting things as a team, i.e., exactly what I have always done. I think many people are trapped by this dream of attaining financial freedom so they can escape work, but in a way that is a cynical take because it presumes that if you are getting paid to do something then it must be something bad that you wouldn't do otherwise. Such a mindset is unfortunate because harbouring escapist fantasies is a really good way to undermine one's ability to find the joy in what they "have" to do. I spent over a decade not realising that I wasn't suffering from work, but from my hangups about work. My advice to those who hate not only their job but any conceivable job, and who nonetheless have a job, is to get as good an understanding about why that is as possible. Reflect on it. Try moving around and changing your environment. Try different jobs. Try jobs that have one redeeming thing about them and seem awful in other ways. The goal isn't to find the perfect job, i.e., the one that fits all your preconceived notions of what you want out of life, but rather to develop an understanding of what your assumptions are and where they come from. It is a useful mindset to be open-minded about what you really want and how you might get that.
  - agent008t 5y ago
    Except family and friends could become resentful of you, the 6 billion people may have no time for you, and you could end up alone and irrelevant. Enter association with other people and assume obligations and responsibilities? That's not too different from having a job or a career.
    - Kiro 5y ago
      What kind of friends and family would become resentful?
      - agent008t 5y ago
        The kind that has to keep working 5 days a week while you don't certainly could. Not saying they would, but it is a real possibility.
  - codegeek 5y ago
    Not everyone is wired the same way. Yes it is nice to go and explore the outdoors (no one can disagree with that usually). But you cannot look down on someone because they choose to do otherwise. The point is that people should do what THEY want to do if they have the freedom to choose.
  - krallja 5y ago
    > the worlds 6 billion people You should update your world facts database, we’ve been on the 7 billion revision for over a decade, and are about to tick over again. Currently at 7.898B humans alive.
  - zxzz 5y ago
    By my observation people who have not experienced extended periods of free time are the ones who have this reaction, and the people that have actually experienced it are the ones saying it's easy to become bored or even depressed. I think it's just one of those things that's hard to imagine until you actually experience it.
    - driverdan 5y ago
      I disagree. I've worked taken two extended periods off of work (6 months and 18+ months). I was busy most of the time because I have a life outside of work.
      - zxzz 5y ago
        I'm sure there are some people that can keep themselves happily busy, but I've seen these kinds of threads about early retirement come up now and then in different places and always its the same: people who have not had a lot of free time incredulous or even seemingly offended that anyone would be happier working, and then many accounts of people that actually retired early saying it made them bored or depressed.
      - 93po 5y ago
        Alternatively, I've taken a year+ off multiple times in my life for "funemployement" and I was quite antsy and bored and restless but also lacked motivation to do much. I think it depends on the person.
- werdnapk 5y ago
  I enjoy coding quite a lot, but I have enough other hobbies and interests, so if I didn't code ever again, I'd just focus more on other things that I enjoy.
- willcipriano 5y ago
  I can see this for some jobs. Retire from the army and suddenly you are not jumping out of planes anymore, but programming? Nothing is stopping you from doing that post retirement, and you get to work on whatever you want.
  - daxfohl 5y ago
    But there's a difference between working on a product that impacts millions of people, versus noodling on a github project with zero followers.
    - willcipriano 5y ago
      Sure there is. When millions of people use your software you have to consider what those millions want. I guess it depends on what you enjoy about software development. For me I enjoy the craft itself and only let users in because I have bills to pay. My best work is stuff nobody will ever use or care about. It's like being a pop artist VS a relatively unknown experimental jazz musician.
      - Jensson 5y ago
        Many finds value in doing stuff other people wants. Work is the most efficient way to do that, you write something and now millions of people can use it. When you write your own pet project nobody cares about it is depressing in comparison. Of course you can care about other things, but if you care about this thing then work is the easiest way to fill that fix.
- throwaway6734 5y ago
  Likewise! Ideally I'd work my job 4 days a week, but if I had to choose between 40 hours or 0 hours, I would choose 40
- toomuchtodo 5y ago
  A job being your identity is a health challenge to be worked through with a therapist. Enjoy your job, for sure, but you make it your identity is to create expectations that cannot be met when unavoidable life transitions occur. A job is what you do, not who you are. https://hbr.org/2019/12/what-happens-when-your-career-becomes-your-whole-identity https://hbr.org/2019/12/what-happens-when-your-career-become... https://economictimes.indiatimes.com/wealth/earn/why-your-identity-should-be-more-than-your-day-job/articleshow/73796542.cms?from=mdr https://economictimes.indiatimes.com/wealth/earn/why-your-id... https://www.wbur.org/hereandnow/2021/10/05/career-job-work-identity https://www.wbur.org/hereandnow/2021/10/05/career-job-work-i... https://www.nytimes.com/2021/02/06/style/work-life-balance-tips-pandemic.html https://www.nytimes.com/2021/02/06/style/work-life-balance-t... https://www.theatlantic.com/family/archive/2021/09/self-objectification-work/620246/ https://www.theatlantic.com/family/archive/2021/09/self-obje...
  - collegeburner 5y ago
    If I go spend 40 to 80 hours kn something for the majority of my life, shouldn't it be an important part of my identity.
    - toomuchtodo 5y ago
      If done in a healthy way, where it contributes to but is not the entirety of your identity, yes. It's a complex topic with a lot of nuance I can't boil down into a single comment.
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Please don’t listen to this. These are the words of someone who allowed work to destroy the part of themselves that had their own hopes and dreams. Only a shell that could take directions was left.

CapmCrackaWaka 5y ago

Do you know this person? Because I actually love my job, and I feel like if I retired right now it would suck. I would definitely be bored.

gibbonsrcool 5y ago
This is mind boggling. Bored? You have all your free time to literally do anything you want. You can explore the outdoors. You can learn ANYTHING you want. You could get to know more of the worlds 6 billion people and their cultures. Volunteer, start a new hobby, spend more time with family and friends, work on personal growth, exercise... you have Stockholm syndrome, snap out of it.
- CapmCrackaWaka 5y ago
  Yeah that all sounds nice until you start to budget it. No way I could keep myself busy with the money I have. I guess this question really depends on if you have the financial means to retire _and keep yourself entertained for the rest of your life_. I don't. > you have Stockholm syndrome, snap out of it Very rude.
  - throwaway123x2 5y ago
    Yeah lol, some people like the structure, other people don't.
- gota 5y ago
  Not the person you're replying to, and not retired, but I can offer some perspective as someone that does indeed like the job. If I retired I'd be able to learn anything I want - but If I wanted to tackle the challenges I have fun tackling, state-of-the-art and involving some nifty constraints and difficulties... I'd need whole teams around me, and a large infrastructure comparable to a multinational company. That's what I get now - working. If I retired, I could only find it, I think, by getting the same job. If I'm already working there, doing the stuff that I find fun, in a schedule that fits me and keeps me healthy and safe, and already relatively financially secure - to the point where I don't have to bother with focusing on corporate ladder or anything like that - what do I gain by retiring? At least on this aspect (there is obviously a tradeoff) Not to mention I get to do some empowered volunteering from within the company itself. It helps that I actually have respect for the leadership, up to the CEO, as actual human beings. Not reverence - respect. Specially looking at some other companies out there. I have a whole other perspective. But toss me into a meatgrinder job and I agree with you immediately. Finally, I hope you see how your comment on Stockholm syndrome and snapping out of it was mean and ignorant towards the parent poster
  - koz_ 5y ago
    Your comment describes my perspective almost to a T. I used to put a lot of stock in the idea of retiring early and then being free to do whatever I wanted, but what I want is to build interesting things as a team, i.e., exactly what I have always done. I think many people are trapped by this dream of attaining financial freedom so they can escape work, but in a way that is a cynical take because it presumes that if you are getting paid to do something then it must be something bad that you wouldn't do otherwise. Such a mindset is unfortunate because harbouring escapist fantasies is a really good way to undermine one's ability to find the joy in what they "have" to do. I spent over a decade not realising that I wasn't suffering from work, but from my hangups about work. My advice to those who hate not only their job but any conceivable job, and who nonetheless have a job, is to get as good an understanding about why that is as possible. Reflect on it. Try moving around and changing your environment. Try different jobs. Try jobs that have one redeeming thing about them and seem awful in other ways. The goal isn't to find the perfect job, i.e., the one that fits all your preconceived notions of what you want out of life, but rather to develop an understanding of what your assumptions are and where they come from. It is a useful mindset to be open-minded about what you really want and how you might get that.
- agent008t 5y ago
  Except family and friends could become resentful of you, the 6 billion people may have no time for you, and you could end up alone and irrelevant. Enter association with other people and assume obligations and responsibilities? That's not too different from having a job or a career.
  - Kiro 5y ago
    What kind of friends and family would become resentful?
    - agent008t 5y ago
      The kind that has to keep working 5 days a week while you don't certainly could. Not saying they would, but it is a real possibility.
- codegeek 5y ago
  Not everyone is wired the same way. Yes it is nice to go and explore the outdoors (no one can disagree with that usually). But you cannot look down on someone because they choose to do otherwise. The point is that people should do what THEY want to do if they have the freedom to choose.
- krallja 5y ago
  > the worlds 6 billion people You should update your world facts database, we’ve been on the 7 billion revision for over a decade, and are about to tick over again. Currently at 7.898B humans alive.
- zxzz 5y ago
  By my observation people who have not experienced extended periods of free time are the ones who have this reaction, and the people that have actually experienced it are the ones saying it's easy to become bored or even depressed. I think it's just one of those things that's hard to imagine until you actually experience it.
  - driverdan 5y ago
    I disagree. I've worked taken two extended periods off of work (6 months and 18+ months). I was busy most of the time because I have a life outside of work.
    - zxzz 5y ago
      I'm sure there are some people that can keep themselves happily busy, but I've seen these kinds of threads about early retirement come up now and then in different places and always its the same: people who have not had a lot of free time incredulous or even seemingly offended that anyone would be happier working, and then many accounts of people that actually retired early saying it made them bored or depressed.
    - 93po 5y ago
      Alternatively, I've taken a year+ off multiple times in my life for "funemployement" and I was quite antsy and bored and restless but also lacked motivation to do much. I think it depends on the person.
werdnapk 5y ago
I enjoy coding quite a lot, but I have enough other hobbies and interests, so if I didn't code ever again, I'd just focus more on other things that I enjoy.
willcipriano 5y ago
I can see this for some jobs. Retire from the army and suddenly you are not jumping out of planes anymore, but programming? Nothing is stopping you from doing that post retirement, and you get to work on whatever you want.
- daxfohl 5y ago
  But there's a difference between working on a product that impacts millions of people, versus noodling on a github project with zero followers.
  - willcipriano 5y ago
    Sure there is. When millions of people use your software you have to consider what those millions want. I guess it depends on what you enjoy about software development. For me I enjoy the craft itself and only let users in because I have bills to pay. My best work is stuff nobody will ever use or care about. It's like being a pop artist VS a relatively unknown experimental jazz musician.
    - Jensson 5y ago
      Many finds value in doing stuff other people wants. Work is the most efficient way to do that, you write something and now millions of people can use it. When you write your own pet project nobody cares about it is depressing in comparison. Of course you can care about other things, but if you care about this thing then work is the easiest way to fill that fix.
throwaway6734 5y ago
Likewise! Ideally I'd work my job 4 days a week, but if I had to choose between 40 hours or 0 hours, I would choose 40
toomuchtodo 5y ago
A job being your identity is a health challenge to be worked through with a therapist. Enjoy your job, for sure, but you make it your identity is to create expectations that cannot be met when unavoidable life transitions occur. A job is what you do, not who you are. https://hbr.org/2019/12/what-happens-when-your-career-becomes-your-whole-identity https://hbr.org/2019/12/what-happens-when-your-career-become... https://economictimes.indiatimes.com/wealth/earn/why-your-identity-should-be-more-than-your-day-job/articleshow/73796542.cms?from=mdr https://economictimes.indiatimes.com/wealth/earn/why-your-id... https://www.wbur.org/hereandnow/2021/10/05/career-job-work-identity https://www.wbur.org/hereandnow/2021/10/05/career-job-work-i... https://www.nytimes.com/2021/02/06/style/work-life-balance-tips-pandemic.html https://www.nytimes.com/2021/02/06/style/work-life-balance-t... https://www.theatlantic.com/family/archive/2021/09/self-objectification-work/620246/ https://www.theatlantic.com/family/archive/2021/09/self-obje...
- collegeburner 5y ago
  If I go spend 40 to 80 hours kn something for the majority of my life, shouldn't it be an important part of my identity.
  - toomuchtodo 5y ago
    If done in a healthy way, where it contributes to but is not the entirety of your identity, yes. It's a complex topic with a lot of nuance I can't boil down into a single comment.

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