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I initially wrote out a rather long comment in response to this expressing my anger and frustration with how people on the spectrum are treated by neurotypicals
by kypro 5y ago
I initially wrote out a rather long comment in response to this expressing my anger and frustration with how people on the spectrum are treated by neurotypicals, but I'm not sure it was very productive.
I guess I just want to say that this upsets me. I don't want to stop the research and I don't blame the parents, but I wish the world was more accepting of us sometimes. My whole neurotypicals have hurt me with their total disregard for the way my brain thinks and acts, yet somehow it's my fault for being like this.
Perhaps one of the more well known examples of this is what happened to James Damore. He got fired from Google for providing his honest feedback to Google's diversity program after they explicitly asked for feedback. But who's fault was it that he took their request for feedback in good faith and was fired by bad actors? His of course. I bring up this example because this is exactly how I've been made to feel throughout my in life. Whether it was when I was in school and getting detention for questioning religious teachings, or at home where I was disappointing my parents for not being the neurotypical boy my parents wanted, or at work when I'm saying the wrong things or sharing opinions that are not permitted.
A few years ago I was fired from my job and I'm almost certain this was because other people in my team expressed that they felt awkward around me and that I didn't fit in. I was there for years and I thought of these people as my friends. It hurt me and confused me so much that after this I struggled to find employment for about a year and I ended up becoming extremely depressed and self medicating with alcohol.
I'm not trying to blame anyone. I get I'm awkward and why people wouldn't want to be around me. But it just hurts because all I want is for people to like me. I spend so much energy every day just trying to be liked, but rarely will anyone do the same for me. It's sad because people on the spectrum tend to be very loyal. We seem to naturally develop very deep connections with the people around us and it hurts a lot when we're rejected.
In the same way we can't build the world around left-handed people, I accept we can't help but live in a world with neurotypical social norms. All I'm asking is you make a little room for us. A lot of us are pretty smart and although we can be a bit weird we don't mean any harm. It's just hard trying to simulate being a normal human 24 hours a day. In the same way left-handedness isn't a disease, I don't think I am either. I know some people are not as fortunate as me and in those cases treatments like this could really help, but a lot of us just need a bit of space to be different rather than to be treated. When I'm on my own or with my partner who understands my quirks, I've never felt I'm at any disadvantage at all.