You probably spot the ones who are deliberately applying it every time. The ones who do it fluidly you think of as nice people. The problem is, even the people

You probably spot the ones who are deliberately applying it every time. The ones who do it fluidly you think of as nice people. The problem is, even the people who do this stuff deliberately still get you to talk about yourself, so you can't help but like them a little. Therapists/Counselors are maybe the only people who can do this deliberately and not have it seem like they're moving through a checklist like a lizard wearing a people suit.