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> Unfortunately this fact is not made explicit anywhere It's common sense that you don't put vulnerable stuff online. Parents should explain this to children w

> Unfortunately this fact is not made explicit anywhere It's common sense that you don't put vulnerable stuff online. Parents should explain this to children when they are growing up. Sure I guess you could put disclaimers everywhere "LIFE MAY NOT BE AS HAPPY AS IT APPEARS" under each photo. Maybe California will require a banner for that soon.

ksdale 5y ago
It's one thing to say that people might not be as happy as they appear, but quite another to say that someone's marriage basically doesn't exist, which is what the parent was saying.
- hunterb123 5y ago
  It's noone's business if they don't want anyone to know. Here GP is gossiping about them, this is what they were trying to avoid amongst their peers. If anyone REALLY wants to know they can find out when the single photos come out. I thought HN understood privacy.
  - ksdale 5y ago
    The point isn't privacy, which is obviously a completely legitimate thing to desire. The point is that the image they present on social media is a complete fabrication. You were saying that everyone expects social media to be a little embellished and I'm saying that I don't believe this is embellishment, it is just outright fantasy, which people do not expect, from their friends at least. Once again, the thing we're discussing is social media making people think everyone else has a great life, and your response is basically that... people should be able lie on social media? Which is fine, and also proves the original point that social media is misleading people.
    - hunterb123 5y ago
      You have no idea what the real situation is. A family is allowed to have a family photo with their kid even if they are going through shit. It's not unusual for two separated parents to hang out with their kid and act kind for their sake. This thread was ridiculous. Nothing but the GP gossiping about sensitive information and many of you trying to figure out whether it's fantasy or not. This is why people act happy, because vultures like you guys trying to sniff out drama. God forbid anyone post a happy photo, the nerve! It's simple. Know that only happy moments are posted. Don't nose into people's lives but know everyone goes through shit just like you.
dudeman13 5y ago
>It's common sense that you don't put vulnerable stuff online Yes, but do people have a gut, visceral knowledge about this when they see stuff online? Knowing something intellectually doesn't mean one's internal bias (and their effects on the individual) will stop working.
- hunterb123 5y ago
  Gut irrational reactions are usually followed by a rational realization when one "intellectually" knows something. The irrational reaction itself may be triggered by the event of seeing someone else's perceived happiness, but is probably a manifestation of a deeper self issue like an insecurity or unfulfilled fantasy.
  - dudeman13 5y ago
    >Gut irrational reactions are usually followed by a rational realization when one "intellectually" knows something. I heavily disagree with that one! Most gut reactions aren't followed at all by any rational realizations, and on the few occasions when they are followed by intellectual ruminations those ruminations will often try to rationalize their gut reaction instead of analytically criticizing them.

ksdale 5y ago

It's one thing to say that people might not be as happy as they appear, but quite another to say that someone's marriage basically doesn't exist, which is what the parent was saying.

hunterb123 5y ago
It's noone's business if they don't want anyone to know. Here GP is gossiping about them, this is what they were trying to avoid amongst their peers. If anyone REALLY wants to know they can find out when the single photos come out. I thought HN understood privacy.
- ksdale 5y ago
  The point isn't privacy, which is obviously a completely legitimate thing to desire. The point is that the image they present on social media is a complete fabrication. You were saying that everyone expects social media to be a little embellished and I'm saying that I don't believe this is embellishment, it is just outright fantasy, which people do not expect, from their friends at least. Once again, the thing we're discussing is social media making people think everyone else has a great life, and your response is basically that... people should be able lie on social media? Which is fine, and also proves the original point that social media is misleading people.
  - hunterb123 5y ago
    You have no idea what the real situation is. A family is allowed to have a family photo with their kid even if they are going through shit. It's not unusual for two separated parents to hang out with their kid and act kind for their sake. This thread was ridiculous. Nothing but the GP gossiping about sensitive information and many of you trying to figure out whether it's fantasy or not. This is why people act happy, because vultures like you guys trying to sniff out drama. God forbid anyone post a happy photo, the nerve! It's simple. Know that only happy moments are posted. Don't nose into people's lives but know everyone goes through shit just like you.

dudeman13 5y ago

>It's common sense that you don't put vulnerable stuff online Yes, but do people have a gut, visceral knowledge about this when they see stuff online? Knowing something intellectually doesn't mean one's internal bias (and their effects on the individual) will stop working.

hunterb123 5y ago
Gut irrational reactions are usually followed by a rational realization when one "intellectually" knows something. The irrational reaction itself may be triggered by the event of seeing someone else's perceived happiness, but is probably a manifestation of a deeper self issue like an insecurity or unfulfilled fantasy.
- dudeman13 5y ago
  >Gut irrational reactions are usually followed by a rational realization when one "intellectually" knows something. I heavily disagree with that one! Most gut reactions aren't followed at all by any rational realizations, and on the few occasions when they are followed by intellectual ruminations those ruminations will often try to rationalize their gut reaction instead of analytically criticizing them.