'Rude' has such a wide variety of interpretations that it's impossible to tell. It's possible you may be in a demanding situation, with high impact professiona

'Rude' has such a wide variety of interpretations that it's impossible to tell. It's possible you may be in a demanding situation, with high impact professionals who are more direct, possibly even terse, and you're just not used to it. It could be a situation where leadership is from a different generation where they just were not PC or didn't mince words - that's hard to describe other than they may not have any reluctance to use slightly uncomfortable expletives. There's also a huge difference between rude actions, and rude manner - frankly, people who seem crufty I find are actually more honest. Often, the truly manipulative people are the one's are those who 'seem nice' but take negative actions behind your back. Maybe they're just really cold and direct, or don't smile. My girlfriend thinks those who don't smile or use pleasantries to be 'rude' while I find prefer candor without the sugary coating. Someone making 'bad actions' i.e. really selfish behaviour, controlling information, not sharing, siloing teams - this is bad but very often is not accompanied with rude manner. And of course, you have basic manner that can be toxic, i.e. constantly demeaning people, calling them 'stupid' or 'idiots' or whatever which is really not ever acceptable in normal situations. You'd have to be really, really specific in terms of the actual communication because someone raising their voice and saying "This is a fing mess, we really need to work on this!" is kind of rude, but not that big a of a deal. Someone saying "Jared fed this up once again, why don't you explain to us all how much of an idiot you are?" - which is totally unacceptable. etc.. 'Rude' is just a very vague term that could mean so many things.