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Socializing with people/a community is different from socializing with in-groups vying for popularity.

• beerandt 5y ago
  No- it's really not, but that's irrelevant. Sacrificing your personal interests and goals because you want to be in a place with people where you fit-in is the very definition of popularity, regardless of your social rank within the group. That's not necessarily bad, but it's not nerdy.
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  • codezero 5y ago
    At this point I think we are talking about different things. I’m not sure I disagree with you and I’m not sure if I agree but mostly because it seems like we are prioritizing different things in this thread. So that said, anything to do with social rank will be hard for me to follow, so best to just leave it :) Wanting to fit in to me is about feeling a general comfort with your surroundings, not having social status. And by fit in, I mean not being ostracized for being yourself, a thing that happens to me in a lot of places, I don’t want to be popular, I just don’t want to be denied service or have my property vandalized. Also, by socialize with people like yourself, I mean going to a user group for some tech you like, etc, these are fewer and far between in rural areas. So even accessing such a community in person becomes a hurdle. This is something folks may take for granted. Or maybe not, I don’t know any more :)