> I haven't had a single issue with someone I couldn't handle myself. I never felt uneasy interacting with others. that's good for you, but how can you then as

> I haven't had a single issue with someone I couldn't handle myself. I never felt uneasy interacting with others. that's good for you, but how can you then assume everyone else shares the identical circumstances as you? Different historically marginalized groups have different experiences, and different individuals within those groups have entirely different experiences as well. Heck, I'm from zero historically marginalized identities but i have a lot of social anxiety, I've had lots of uneasiness. You are lucky that you have had no bad experiences (I might even argue this is really a sub-category of "survivorship bias"). I run an open source project. Users come to me for help, I would never think to say, "this code is easy for me to do, therefore it should be easy for you too, go work harder". Would be pretty outrageously bad, in fact. For me to assume that just because something is easy / possible / reasonable for me, therefore it should be for everyone else, would indicate a profound lack of empathy. CoC's are there to indicate to the userbase that the comfort of all users is of the highest importance so they can get on with the job of working on code together, largely related to the fact that society is in a place of great change where all kinds of tacit, implicit, pervasive disapproval and marginalization of all kinds of people is suddenly not being tolerated. It's not unusual that this level of change would make people uncomfortable but the best thing you can do is to try to see the bigger picture rather than burrowing into becoming a reactionary.