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Here is a little hint. These women don't think you're funny. They are humouring you. Most likely they've heard all the jokes before and they think you're boring

by dnh44 5y ago

Here is a little hint. These women don't think you're funny. They are humouring you. Most likely they've heard all the jokes before and they think you're boring at best or an asshole at worst. Imagine for a moment that your name was Seymour Butts and then imagine how bored you'd feel by the people that continued to make the same lame jokes about your name, as adults in a professional environment.

koonsolo 5y ago
Is that why they always sit at the "funny guys" table during lunch?
- dnh44 5y ago
  Maybe the other option is the "creepy guys" table? All joking aside I can only comment very generally obviously, but just because people will tolerate a particular aspect of someones personality doesn't mean they actually enjoy it. Remember that 30 years ago in the Western world lots of women got patted on the ass at work and the normal response was to nod and smile because that's just how the world was. I once met someone in Australia whose best friends all called him some racial slur as a nickname (I forget which one now). In a short moment alone I asked him if that was actually okay for him and he answered "No, but that's just the way people are around here." I obviously have no way of knowing how close you are to these women but you should probably at least be open to the possibility that there is a similar dynamic at play here. Personally, I have a unique physical characteristic that causes even strangers to approach to comment or joke about. I've got a pretty good catalogue of witty retorts by now and one of them in particular is so spectacular that I quite enjoy the opportunity to use it. I still think the people who make the jokes are boring idiots though.
  - koonsolo 5y ago
    The jokes need to be funny of course, not just sexist remarks. You also have to know to whom you can say what. My close friends at work can be very brutal, and I return the favor ;). But you cannot do that to casual colleagues, or people you know that don't like such things. My best friend is 2m tall, so I also know all those jokes. But that doesn't stop us from annoying him now and then :D.

by dnh44 5y ago

koonsolo 5y ago

Is that why they always sit at the "funny guys" table during lunch?

dnh44 5y ago
Maybe the other option is the "creepy guys" table? All joking aside I can only comment very generally obviously, but just because people will tolerate a particular aspect of someones personality doesn't mean they actually enjoy it. Remember that 30 years ago in the Western world lots of women got patted on the ass at work and the normal response was to nod and smile because that's just how the world was. I once met someone in Australia whose best friends all called him some racial slur as a nickname (I forget which one now). In a short moment alone I asked him if that was actually okay for him and he answered "No, but that's just the way people are around here." I obviously have no way of knowing how close you are to these women but you should probably at least be open to the possibility that there is a similar dynamic at play here. Personally, I have a unique physical characteristic that causes even strangers to approach to comment or joke about. I've got a pretty good catalogue of witty retorts by now and one of them in particular is so spectacular that I quite enjoy the opportunity to use it. I still think the people who make the jokes are boring idiots though.
- koonsolo 5y ago
  The jokes need to be funny of course, not just sexist remarks. You also have to know to whom you can say what. My close friends at work can be very brutal, and I return the favor ;). But you cannot do that to casual colleagues, or people you know that don't like such things. My best friend is 2m tall, so I also know all those jokes. But that doesn't stop us from annoying him now and then :D.