having been through a similar situation myself (where the outcome has spilled over from the place i was working when it occurred to contaminate following busine

having been through a similar situation myself (where the outcome has spilled over from the place i was working when it occurred to contaminate following business relationships) i've thought a lot about what went wrong and what i wish would/could have happened. i think, really, what would be ideal, would be some sort of pause or alternate low stress duties that can be put on the job. perhaps some sort of salary reduction, or maybe insurance that covers the lost wages at the time, that allows for time to deal with these things properly and then a proper return where one isn't caught between trying to deliver in a high stakes environment and being a reasonable human in family/home matters. i've seen some comments along the lines of "people who work in trades don't get this sort of benefit." yeah, that's not totally true... and computering for dollars is different, a depressed/mentally stressed programmer is like an electrician with a skeletal injury. a friend of mine is an electrician and when he injured himself, the union found a desk job for him until he was able to heal. i feel like something similar should exist for computer people.