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If you can relate to this, consider that it's very common with ADHD[1]. My life has greatly improved once I learned about it, and got it treated, instead of bl

If you can relate to this, consider that it's very common with ADHD[1]. My life has greatly improved once I learned about it, and got it treated, instead of blaming myself for all the things I did (or couldn't do). I wrote up my experience here: https://romankogan.net/adhd https://romankogan.net/adhd [1] http://romankogan.net/adhd/#Revenge%20Bedtime http://romankogan.net/adhd/#Revenge%20Bedtime

grillvogel 5y ago
these are interesting, but its just a bunch of memes. any tips for managing?
- romwell 5y ago
  A bunch of memes? There are 20,000+ words of notes there that are accompanied by comics (made specifically to raise ADHD awareness) and relatable memes. But hey, sure :) If you find the memes interesting, but more importantly - relatable, my best tip for managing would be to get an ADHD evaluation[1] and see if medication[2] works for you. You can also use this list to tell your therapist/coach about the issues you are struggling with - it's much easier when there's a list at hand. I simply pointed mine to this page. If you relate to just a couple of entries, then I don't have much advice. If you find many entries relatable on most days, then joining ADHD groups on social media, learning about it, getting self-help books specifically for people with ADHD, and, yes, medication will be a life-changing experience. Which case is it for you? [1]http://romankogan.net/adhd/#Diagnosis http://romankogan.net/adhd/#Diagnosis [2]http://romankogan.net/adhd/#Medication http://romankogan.net/adhd/#Medication
  - grillvogel 5y ago
    i can relate to most of the entries but i don't buy into medication. pretty much everyone would be more productive on amphetamines
    - romwell 5y ago
      If you relate to most of the entries, then you should definitely consider talking to a professional. There are many resources available to help with ADHD, first and foremost being understanding what works and what doesn't work with your ADHD brain. Regarding medication, there is a lot of unnecessary stigma around it. Please consider my experience with it: [1] to understand what I'm about to say. It's not about productivity. It's about not feeling pain associated with initiating, finishing, or switching tasks. It's about slowing the thoughts in your brain a bit so that you could find the first step more easily, and have more control over either not initiating other tasks, or switching out of something that you can't stop doing. You have to understand that most people don't have these issues to begin with. I have no idea what amphetamines do for them. For people with ADHD, medication is like glasses for the brain. It helps us see better. If somebody takes your glasses, they won't improve their vision - in fact, they will probably mess up their own. That's why both glasses and medication have to be prescribed by a professional. There is much more than medication though. It's about approaching the things you face in ways that work for you. It's understanding what strengths you have (e.g. acting efficiently in emergencies or under high pressure in critical tasks) vs. things that your brain isn't good at (estimating time, doing the same thing consistently, etc.) Going into that is way beyond the scope of a comment. There is a lot to learn. [1] https://romankogan.net/adhd#Medication https://romankogan.net/adhd#Medication
      - anonymous-9932 5y ago
        >If you relate to most of the entries, then you should definitely consider talking to a professional. Doesn't it have to be debilitating though? I relate to a lot of those things, read some books, and nod along, etc., and even talked to a psychiatrist about it, but he was pretty dismissive about it.
    - taurath 5y ago
      There's been a groundswell on social media wherein everything functionally becomes ADHD, ASD, neurodivergent etc. - many people have taken up these diagnoses as a self-identity, and I don't think thats a bad thing to try to build community around an idea. However, the net of symptoms and behaviors is cast really widely, and I think overall the definitions really start to lose their usefulness when so many traits are bucketed into these categories. To start, a disorder is only that if it is causing difficulty in your life, in reaching your goals, doing what you want or taking care of yourself. Most people identify as that but can't necessarily put a name on it. My personal experience is I was Dx'd with ADHD, and then ASD (then Aspergers) at an early age of 10. The reasoning was I presented with some oversensitivity to sensory input (loud noises, etc) and had trouble socializing. I internally accepted (or was forced to accept) this definition for myself for a very long time - I was literally told as a child I couldn't read faces, and so I never really tried until I rebelled from the given model that I was somehow incapable in my late teens. It turns out, at the very minimum the ASD diagnoses couldn't be further from the truth. I am just a very sensitive person, I read faces and expressions extremely well and if anything I'm a natural social butterfly, though emotionally very anxious. A good few differential diagnoses for anyone looking at what they might identify with include both CPTSD and Attachment Disorders. The commonality between them is that both of those are caused environmentally rather than some innate genetic trait which is usually proposed regarding ASD/ADHD. And its also true that two people in the same environment won't necessarily develop the same disorders, or any. This is a bit of a long rant, but for me a CPTSD diagnosis and related treatment modalities has helped me develop more in the past year or two than literal decades of work around ASD/ADHD - everyone is different and YMMV, just wanted to show that there are some other options.
gowld 5y ago
An ADHD wiki that you can get stuck clicking around forever getting little bits of novel stimulation -- the ultimate troll.
- romwell 5y ago
  OMG WHAT HAVE I DONE My apologies to anyone who ended up getting stuck there at the expense of Things To Do™.
  - eponai 5y ago
    This blog is fantastic! Literally every entry is me. Feeling seen.
    - romwell 5y ago
      Thanks for the kind words! Guess there's two of us :D Seriously though, the following: * Jenn Has ADHD on FB * ADHD TikTok (@connordewolfe and @catieosaurus) * Support groups/forum/body doubling at ADHD Actually[1] * How To ADHD Youtube channel (also Rick Green) have been life-changing for me to discover. You are not alone. Welcome to the fold! :) [1] https://adhdactually.com https://adhdactually.com
      - eponai 5y ago
        @connordewolfe puts out some of my favorite internet content, he's great! thanks for the recs.

grillvogel 5y ago

these are interesting, but its just a bunch of memes. any tips for managing?

romwell 5y ago
A bunch of memes? There are 20,000+ words of notes there that are accompanied by comics (made specifically to raise ADHD awareness) and relatable memes. But hey, sure :) If you find the memes interesting, but more importantly - relatable, my best tip for managing would be to get an ADHD evaluation[1] and see if medication[2] works for you. You can also use this list to tell your therapist/coach about the issues you are struggling with - it's much easier when there's a list at hand. I simply pointed mine to this page. If you relate to just a couple of entries, then I don't have much advice. If you find many entries relatable on most days, then joining ADHD groups on social media, learning about it, getting self-help books specifically for people with ADHD, and, yes, medication will be a life-changing experience. Which case is it for you? [1]http://romankogan.net/adhd/#Diagnosis http://romankogan.net/adhd/#Diagnosis [2]http://romankogan.net/adhd/#Medication http://romankogan.net/adhd/#Medication
- grillvogel 5y ago
  i can relate to most of the entries but i don't buy into medication. pretty much everyone would be more productive on amphetamines
  - romwell 5y ago
    If you relate to most of the entries, then you should definitely consider talking to a professional. There are many resources available to help with ADHD, first and foremost being understanding what works and what doesn't work with your ADHD brain. Regarding medication, there is a lot of unnecessary stigma around it. Please consider my experience with it: [1] to understand what I'm about to say. It's not about productivity. It's about not feeling pain associated with initiating, finishing, or switching tasks. It's about slowing the thoughts in your brain a bit so that you could find the first step more easily, and have more control over either not initiating other tasks, or switching out of something that you can't stop doing. You have to understand that most people don't have these issues to begin with. I have no idea what amphetamines do for them. For people with ADHD, medication is like glasses for the brain. It helps us see better. If somebody takes your glasses, they won't improve their vision - in fact, they will probably mess up their own. That's why both glasses and medication have to be prescribed by a professional. There is much more than medication though. It's about approaching the things you face in ways that work for you. It's understanding what strengths you have (e.g. acting efficiently in emergencies or under high pressure in critical tasks) vs. things that your brain isn't good at (estimating time, doing the same thing consistently, etc.) Going into that is way beyond the scope of a comment. There is a lot to learn. [1] https://romankogan.net/adhd#Medication https://romankogan.net/adhd#Medication
    - anonymous-9932 5y ago
      >If you relate to most of the entries, then you should definitely consider talking to a professional. Doesn't it have to be debilitating though? I relate to a lot of those things, read some books, and nod along, etc., and even talked to a psychiatrist about it, but he was pretty dismissive about it.
  - taurath 5y ago
    There's been a groundswell on social media wherein everything functionally becomes ADHD, ASD, neurodivergent etc. - many people have taken up these diagnoses as a self-identity, and I don't think thats a bad thing to try to build community around an idea. However, the net of symptoms and behaviors is cast really widely, and I think overall the definitions really start to lose their usefulness when so many traits are bucketed into these categories. To start, a disorder is only that if it is causing difficulty in your life, in reaching your goals, doing what you want or taking care of yourself. Most people identify as that but can't necessarily put a name on it. My personal experience is I was Dx'd with ADHD, and then ASD (then Aspergers) at an early age of 10. The reasoning was I presented with some oversensitivity to sensory input (loud noises, etc) and had trouble socializing. I internally accepted (or was forced to accept) this definition for myself for a very long time - I was literally told as a child I couldn't read faces, and so I never really tried until I rebelled from the given model that I was somehow incapable in my late teens. It turns out, at the very minimum the ASD diagnoses couldn't be further from the truth. I am just a very sensitive person, I read faces and expressions extremely well and if anything I'm a natural social butterfly, though emotionally very anxious. A good few differential diagnoses for anyone looking at what they might identify with include both CPTSD and Attachment Disorders. The commonality between them is that both of those are caused environmentally rather than some innate genetic trait which is usually proposed regarding ASD/ADHD. And its also true that two people in the same environment won't necessarily develop the same disorders, or any. This is a bit of a long rant, but for me a CPTSD diagnosis and related treatment modalities has helped me develop more in the past year or two than literal decades of work around ASD/ADHD - everyone is different and YMMV, just wanted to show that there are some other options.

gowld 5y ago

An ADHD wiki that you can get stuck clicking around forever getting little bits of novel stimulation -- the ultimate troll.

romwell 5y ago
OMG WHAT HAVE I DONE My apologies to anyone who ended up getting stuck there at the expense of Things To Do™.
- eponai 5y ago
  This blog is fantastic! Literally every entry is me. Feeling seen.
  - romwell 5y ago
    Thanks for the kind words! Guess there's two of us :D Seriously though, the following: * Jenn Has ADHD on FB * ADHD TikTok (@connordewolfe and @catieosaurus) * Support groups/forum/body doubling at ADHD Actually[1] * How To ADHD Youtube channel (also Rick Green) have been life-changing for me to discover. You are not alone. Welcome to the fold! :) [1] https://adhdactually.com https://adhdactually.com
    - eponai 5y ago
      @connordewolfe puts out some of my favorite internet content, he's great! thanks for the recs.