I don't think competing and winning have to be the same thing, they usually aren't. Winning is just an end result, a lot of times you might not have full contro

I don't think competing and winning have to be the same thing, they usually aren't. Winning is just an end result, a lot of times you might not have full control over that result. Competing has a lot more to do with effort and mindset. I play a lot of tennis and watch a lot of tennis, at very high levels a match can be decided by less than 10 shots, and those shots might be less than inches from being in or out. But just because the result is an L doesn't mean the competition wasn't high and some of great value wasn't gained for all parties. Also, competition being anti-social seems like a strange concept. Unless I am only in competition with myself, I do need participation from other parties, and that in itself creates a social environment, for better or for worse.