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Adopted a teenage daughter. Gave her a phone. We had a 5 year cycle of deep depression on phone. Take away phone for x months. Teen becomes happy and full of li
by treeman79 5y ago
Adopted a teenage daughter. Gave her a phone.
We had a 5 year cycle of deep depression on phone. Take away phone for x months. Teen becomes happy and full of life. Couple days after getting phone back she was super depressed again.
Every single time. No variation. Phone == depression no phone == happy teen.
Not perfect without phone by any stretch, but general mood was involved with family and cheerful.
This went on until she was old enough to move out so we would stop taking her phone away. A couple years later she finally realized what social media was doing to her and she turned it off herself. Started getting her life together.
Other daughters are pissed because they can’t have a phone. When I query about the friends. It’s the same pattern. Every friend with a phone is obsessed with it. The ones without are much more fun to hang out with.
- ClumsyPilot 5y agoMaybe, just maybe, in the battle between a billion dollar marketing and addiction machine staffed by world brightest minds vs a teenage brain, teenage brain looses. Probably adult brain looses too. We dont expect everyday joe to fight a heavyweight chamption, or defend himself in court. Some changes are needed.
- floren 5y agoI was really happy to read that she voluntarily cut herself off from the phone when she moved out. I was afraid the punchline was going to be "so now she's constantly miserable". Good for her!
- treeman79 5y agoShe was utterly miserable for two years after moving out. She got to know her “real” family. After dragging her bio dad out of literal ditch in 2 occasions. Well she decided she wanted to get herself together. Was a wake up call. I’ll be waking her down the aisle soon. She is marrying a very nice guy.