First, you weren’t condescending to me, you were condescending to someone else. Second, saying “you have no idea what you’re talking about” is aggressive, not c

First, you weren’t condescending to me, you were condescending to someone else. Second, saying “you have no idea what you’re talking about” is aggressive, not condescending. “Have you actually tried X?” is condescending, because it places you in a position of superiority, framed as an “honest” question. If in your mind that is a polite and honest conversation, your mind is clouded, as me an other people have now let you know.