In the problems of this article's perspective is a fixed mindset. That we have our defaults and starting places but cannot expand beyond them. Even (as one ha

In the problems of this article's perspective is a fixed mindset. That we have our defaults and starting places but cannot expand beyond them. Even (as one has in an [IMO] ideal life partner) given a customized guide into foreign passions and interests. Yet this is step one because the next and following stages are exploring and creating inside that connection and sharing, supporting both the contributed growth of the individuals but also of the shared endeavor and continuous creating. I've been in a relationship not far from the early stages of what is described. Shifting towards what I describe above was contained by physical and emotional violence. So far as I can tell those were echoes of her past traumas, not to excuse. I can empathize though... The task of next levels growth is a challenge that rocks us at levels we are not normally thinking of and in facing we find nearly no guidance to assist us in our journeys. What a pregnant and rich context into which a shift could unlock untold riches of two deeply sophisticated minds with much to offer and deeper challenging commitments to forge. There are other options, clearly, but are there, really? [To be slightly less obtuse: the final sentence shifts from possiblity to desirability which is semantic slipperiness for which I apologize... but not enough to rephrase, apparently]