> "marry your equal" is incredibly important advice. Marry someone of similar earning power, with similar career and life accomplishments. This helps ensures a

> "marry your equal" is incredibly important advice. Marry someone of similar earning power, with similar career and life accomplishments. This helps ensures a equal relationship that has the greatest chance of success. Eh. You should marry someone you love and respect, but you are defining "equal" like "clone." Personally, I am driven by knowledge, growth, ambition, etc. I used to think these are my values and looked for the same in women I dated. So I ended up dating a bunch of CEOs, a famous professor, etc. But while it was very interesting, it wasn't additive. The woman I actually married is no slouch in earning and intelligence but the things she values are very different from mine. She values creating a home, family connections etc in a way that I didn't know to, but benefit from. It does mean we have a different natural division of labor at home etc but the bigger deal is that we both bring a lot that the other person needs to the table. Life is not without it's conflicts but it's working out much better than if I was stuck with another me