My take is that you've got to have some things you enjoy doing together or talking about, but it doesn't have to be everything, and being in a marriage is no ex

My take is that you've got to have some things you enjoy doing together or talking about, but it doesn't have to be everything, and being in a marriage is no excuse for stopping to have other relationships with other people that can fill those gaps. For example, if you're a nerd for philosophy, find some friends who are too, talk to them about it, join online communities, etc. Same thing if you're a nerd for geometry. More importantly I'd say is your partners ability to support you in having those other outlets and relationships or opportunities for doing those things as well. That's what I'd consider love. Do the things you both enjoy together, encourage each other to also find people and ways to do the things you don't both enjoy seperately, and be okay with that. Now, if there's nothing you both enjoy doing or talking about, well, I'm sorry to say, but why are you together? Such relationships cannot survive beyond the initial lust. If one or both of you have grown to enjoy different things and because of that no longer enjoy much in common, well that's how people grow appart, and it's why some relationship do eventually end naturally, and it could be time to move on, and that's okay too.