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As an extra data point. Not having her get excited about xyz is one thing. My gf from long long ago(just after varisty) would belittle/disapprove flat out freak

As an extra data point. Not having her get excited about xyz is one thing. My gf from long long ago(just after varisty) would belittle/disapprove flat out freak out if i showed shared something with her that she didnt like or approve. Show her some video on YouTube about a random topic, sure she doesnt, have to like it. But just hearing the video presenter from another room will be enough for her to freak out 'urghh are you listening to thatttt guy again !!! I cant stand him he is so boring such a **.' Going on a roadtrip ? You better tune the radio to 'something good' the first time, Else it will be a 1min lashing of how boring,stupid and irrating the person's voice or topic is ! Just ask/say you want to listen to something else, I dont need to hear all the rest. I never was/is much of a spiritual person, but that ex showed me how the 'room energy' can change in a instant ! Marriage - sure it can be great, but be careful of ending up in a 'military state' at home. Your mental health wont survive it !

Torwald 5y ago
What you describe is a person I wouldn't call an adult.
mlyle 5y ago
This is really mostly my issue. She'll even get excited. But by the time I've explained the 15 pieces of background knowledge needed to understand what I mean... I'm not even excited anymore. :D We've got a whole lot of common ground-- she's a mechanical engineer, and now we're both involved quite a bit in education and coaching. That stuff we can talk about. But late last night I came up with a clever trick to collapse some tedious keypad-scanning-code down into something surprisingly tidy, and in that moment all I could really say was "I got the keypad on those boards for the robotics kids working in a really nice way".
redisman 5y ago
I mean the problem here sounds to be that you were dating a mental 15 year old.
- rawoke083600 5y ago
  I couldn't agree more !

Torwald 5y ago

What you describe is a person I wouldn't call an adult.

mlyle 5y ago

This is really mostly my issue. She'll even get excited. But by the time I've explained the 15 pieces of background knowledge needed to understand what I mean... I'm not even excited anymore. :D We've got a whole lot of common ground-- she's a mechanical engineer, and now we're both involved quite a bit in education and coaching. That stuff we can talk about. But late last night I came up with a clever trick to collapse some tedious keypad-scanning-code down into something surprisingly tidy, and in that moment all I could really say was "I got the keypad on those boards for the robotics kids working in a really nice way".

redisman 5y ago

I mean the problem here sounds to be that you were dating a mental 15 year old.

rawoke083600 5y ago
I couldn't agree more !