Here is what I suggest: take every week 1 hour to drink a coffee with your wife and discuss family matters. First coffee will have a lot of things to solve, but

Here is what I suggest: take every week 1 hour to drink a coffee with your wife and discuss family matters. First coffee will have a lot of things to solve, but if you commit to do this weekly you both will not feel the need to solve everything in one meeting. Also I would approach this with a mix of relaxation and focus on solutions and not make the meeting a bullet point list with todos. It might be that the first meetings will be more venting than actual solutions. Let is be for both of you! You have a life to live together so there is always time to discuss anything.