Yes, most correct comment. It would be impossible to convey all side of each side. Most situations relationships involve a complex interchange of many emotions

Yes, most correct comment. It would be impossible to convey all side of each side. Most situations relationships involve a complex interchange of many emotions and other issues. There is of course now way to explain all that here. But that's wasn't the point, the point of the post was that I had a moment of clarity, of what was important to me and where my life was going. I got married because that is what society and family expected, I realized that was not for me. But ya, if divorce papers are on the table, time to smell the coffee, the fat lady is singing, turn out the lights, time to move on.