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I'll stretch the analogy and say having a supportive spouse without being a supportive spouse is Kryptonite. I'll assume that should the OP's wife express that
by nineplay 5y ago
I'll stretch the analogy and say having a supportive spouse without being a supportive spouse is Kryptonite. I'll assume that should the OP's wife express that she was at the breaking point that he would be similarly supportive of her desires.
- blunte 5y agoA non-supportive spouse may simply not understand you; or they may be caught up in their own struggles; or they may not be the right spouse...
- notsureaboutpg 5y agoThis isn't true at all. It's about expectations. If both spouses expect the exact same support, it's difficult / impossible. I see most successful marriages where each spouse does what the other is not as good at doing, where they complement each other and don't resent that they ~always~ do one thing while the spouse ~always~ does something else.
- Jensson 5y agoDifferent kinds of support requests are very different. "Please don't ask as much of me in the future, I am at a breaking point" "Please do more for me in the future, I am at a breaking point" You see the difference in these two? In the first you ask for yourself to do less. In the second you ask for your partner to do more. The second often leads to your partner also burning out and then nobody has any capacity to spare creating a horrible situation. The super power isn't the support part, but being able to live with less part. Demanding high living standards and thus high workload from your partner is the kryptonite.