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> Live among people you disagree with -- we're all still Americans, it'll be OK I grew up in the American south, and migrated to California as an adult. As a B

> Live among people you disagree with -- we're all still Americans, it'll be OK I grew up in the American south, and migrated to California as an adult. As a Black person I can say this doesn’t work as well in practice. It’s better than the old days (when my mom was growing up segregation was still legal and the military warned her parents to be back on base before sunset.) But I’d much rather live in a welcoming area.

Doches 5y ago
That is...a very fair qualification. I grew up white in the South, where my mom used to tell me stories about school integration. Knowing that my otherwise-welcoming neighbors/family/peers might randomly turn out to be racist assholes when confronted by someone of slightly different skin tone was and remains my least favorite thing about the place, by a margin that's wider than Texas. There's "be the change you want to see", and then there's "move to a place where you're likely to murdered in the street for pointless, intractable reasons." I can't say I blame you for getting the hell out; I just hope that in our lifetime you feel comfortable going back to where you grew up. The weather's great (except for the hurricanes) and the barbecue is amazing (except in the Carolinas). Maybe one day you can get back here and we can all work together on fixing whatever the hell is wrong with (some of) the people.
- jasonladuke0311 5y ago
  > the barbecue is amazing (except in the Carolinas) how dare you