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For me this is a matter of timeblocking my personal life too. If I don't have anything else, I basically procrastinate by browsing the Internet (Reddit! HN! Al

For me this is a matter of timeblocking my personal life too. If I don't have anything else, I basically procrastinate by browsing the Internet (Reddit! HN! All shiny new stuff!) So every quarter I have my objectives (I shudder to write the OKR word) and then time block my personal calendar. I have calculated I have around 20 hours per week of "me" time (besides work, sleep, home stuff, and so on). Do I want to get healthy? Bam! There goes 3 hours per week! Do I want to learn to play the piano? Bam! That would be 4 hours sir. Meditate? 2 hours per week. Read fiction books? Bam! 4 hours and you're done. Visualizing that time is scarce helps me a lot.

mabub24 5y ago
Timeblocking can help. I think it also helps to make and sustain friends, which is a kind of "work" in its own right as you mature into adulthood. You begin to learn that lifelong relationships take effort and almost always meeting each other in person. For all but the very few, loneliness is very detrimental to your health and sense of well-being, and I don't think being online is a "cure" or even a very good facsimile. Some people get far to into the idea that "being online" is their hobby, that the relationships they make online are as important as the relationships they make offline. And I would gently disagree in almost every case. The relationships we make online are often ephemeral, anonymous, and superficial. They have their time and place, but they don't replace relationships with real people you can see and interact with in person. They are not nearly as fulfilling. For people that game a lot, for instance, games often have online communities, but I've always found that online communities pale in comparison to in-person events or LANs. All attempts to recreate them online are but shadows of the real thing. Once you start to see being online as just a minor attachment to your offline life, then being online simply stops having as much importance in your life.
- pantulis 5y ago
  > I think it also helps to make and sustain friends" Wait what, you mean, like, real people?
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mabub24 5y ago

Timeblocking can help. I think it also helps to make and sustain friends, which is a kind of "work" in its own right as you mature into adulthood. You begin to learn that lifelong relationships take effort and almost always meeting each other in person. For all but the very few, loneliness is very detrimental to your health and sense of well-being, and I don't think being online is a "cure" or even a very good facsimile. Some people get far to into the idea that "being online" is their hobby, that the relationships they make online are as important as the relationships they make offline. And I would gently disagree in almost every case. The relationships we make online are often ephemeral, anonymous, and superficial. They have their time and place, but they don't replace relationships with real people you can see and interact with in person. They are not nearly as fulfilling. For people that game a lot, for instance, games often have online communities, but I've always found that online communities pale in comparison to in-person events or LANs. All attempts to recreate them online are but shadows of the real thing. Once you start to see being online as just a minor attachment to your offline life, then being online simply stops having as much importance in your life.

pantulis 5y ago
> I think it also helps to make and sustain friends" Wait what, you mean, like, real people?
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