I don't have kids, but my parents treat my brother's kids like plague rats to be avoided. It's very sad because the kids love them but the ship sailed on changi

I don't have kids, but my parents treat my brother's kids like plague rats to be avoided. It's very sad because the kids love them but the ship sailed on changing who my parents are now a long time ago. I wish more people that pull out the moralizing "everyone should just" would understand that just maybe the rest of us don't have a life that looks like theirs, and not for reasons under our control.