Point taken. My other comment hopefully clarifies the rather provocative choice of terms. I think the debate hasn't been settled though. It wasn't so long ago

Point taken. My other comment hopefully clarifies the rather provocative choice of terms. I think the debate hasn't been settled though. It wasn't so long ago that women were, for the most part, prioritising being a successful housewives rather than their careers. Surely they had little to no choice since society expected just that from them. I wouldn't argue that the pressure wasn't forcing their hands, but was a model where the roles were gender defined. The good thing with clearly defined roles for something as challenging as being a parent is that one can work towards developing the required abilities to become an adult well equipped when family comes around. I do see your point though. Your parental situation is not a rarety any longer, a gender based role assignment can't de facto be most adequate. I don't have a desire to regress. It does seem to me we have regressed though. We created created society of kids at day care then schools, and are only starting to see the contradictions that come with that.