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In my experience of +15 years of hosting my own email server, being successful at delivering and receiving mail is a matter of luck rather than knowledge or cor
by kiryin 5y ago
In my experience of +15 years of hosting my own email server, being successful at delivering and receiving mail is a matter of luck rather than knowledge or correctness of execution. Obviously you have to configure DMARC and such or there will be nothing but trouble, but even if you do every little thing by the book, or alternatively use one of these kitchen-sink solutions, there's still a good chance you will have problems sooner or later. Bad IP, bad IP range, changing IP, bad domain/registrar (!?!?!) or some kind of weird automated flagging system can and often will get in your way, and gmail/outlook will not reply to your support ticket or investigate the matter at all whatsoever. Look forward to changing VPS providers and domains until it works, and then stick to that setup like your life depended on it.
- nix23 5y ago>gmail/outlook You can both let your domain whitelist with a google/microsoft account.
- em-bee 5y agoi found this resource for google, which suggests that google does offer any kind of whitelisting, but it contains a bunch of things to look into that may help to get mails accepted. https://support.google.com/mail/thread/5166415/my-domain-emails-are-marking-as-spam-in-gmail-i-want-to-whitelist-my-domain-in-gmail https://support.google.com/mail/thread/5166415/my-domain-ema...
- nix23 5y agoWell it's not whitelisting, you just tell google that this sending domain is yours...kind of, never had a non delivered/spam message on the customer side...however it's bad that google has a nearly monopoly over email.
- em-bee 5y agodo you have a link that describes the process? i didn't see that in the resource i found.
- eikenberry 5y agoIMO the simple fix is to host the incoming MX servers and use a service for the outgoing SMTP. The latter is available for very cheap and the former is what you really care about hosting.
- Karrot_Kream 5y agoThis is a pretty under-appreciated thought IMO. Self-hosting is mostly about holding onto the emails you receive by yourself and not having them be scanned for ads/other purposes. Hosting your own MX and using an outgoing SMTP works just fine for those purposes.