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I think a largely unsolved problem is it's more satisfying to match than to re-kindle a conversation with a past match. The window after a match where a convers
by minikomi 5y ago
I think a largely unsolved problem is it's more satisfying to match than to re-kindle a conversation with a past match. The window after a match where a conversation can spark and lead to an offline interaction is fleeting and, once gone, it feels weird to re-message a past match.
- arvinsim 5y agoDoesn't help that some dating apps archive your expired matches conversation so you don't even have the option of going back.
- cableshaft 5y agoMy wife actually did that for me. She pinged me and we talked briefly, but at the time I had just gotten a new job a couple of hours away and was considering moving closer to the job (and away from her), and she didn't want to do anything long distance. About a year later I had switched jobs back into the area, was still on the same dating platform, and she pinged me again. We've been together for over six years now.
- leodriesch 5y agoI feel like this is partly something the dating app companies do on purpose. There is this inherent problem that if the dating app does its job well, it will inevitably lose the customer. The ideal customer does a lot of matching is more into hookups than actual dating, so the dating app in incentivized to optimize for this behavior rather than focusing on matching people based on character to increase the possibility of a long term relationship.