Hey friend I'm so deeply sorry you're feeling this way. I'm sad to say that I can relate to what you've described. I think a lot of people can, both men and wom

Hey friend I'm so deeply sorry you're feeling this way. I'm sad to say that I can relate to what you've described. I think a lot of people can, both men and women. Loneliness was a problem before the pandemic, now jeez man it's a real issue. It could be that the way you're feeling extends beyond your romantic problems and you're suffering from depression. You might want to consider talking with a therapist about that. I never did, but I read a book called Feeling Great by David Burns and found it helpful. As far as dating goes I would caution you about telling yourself too many stories about why you're single - these are likely to be just what they sound like, stories. Most people you meet aren't going to be romantically attracted to you, and thats ok! Thats part of being human. Something that I found helped me to feel a little less negative while searching (almost entirely online for me) was to think of the person on the other end of the screen, and how even though we might not be a very good match they were probably also having a pretty bad time in the app and even if I couldn't see any end in sight to my loneliness I could extend some human kindness to these people and try to make that one experience a little better for them. For me that was a real turning point. I found online dating easier and the rejection less painful. I also met someone really special shortly after that. Another thing that makes me feel better when I'm lonely or feeling down in general is helping people. Especially anonymously, and with no way of them knowing it was you or returning the favor. Give it a try - it's delightful. Hopefully something in there was useful. Even if not, I feel for you. And I care about what happens to you. Just because you feel this way today doesn't mean you'll always feel this way. Take care friend.