You can pick and choose when to use NVC. I wouldn’t use it for a disagreement about what restaurant to go to. I would use it for a disagreement about money, sex

You can pick and choose when to use NVC. I wouldn’t use it for a disagreement about what restaurant to go to. I would use it for a disagreement about money, sex, politics, etc. The more emotionally charged and existential the disagreement the more useful I’ve found NVC in avoiding those “real” conversations that turn into fights. Not saying it’s the only way. Some people are totally able to speak plainly with a sharp edge and then reconcile after.