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>I’m confused why you’d feel insulted by NVC. What about it feels demeaning to you? The reason myself, and maybe others, find this style of communication insul
by honkdaddy 5y ago
>I’m confused why you’d feel insulted by NVC. What about it feels demeaning to you?
The reason myself, and maybe others, find this style of communication insulting is because it can come off as very condescending. It's clear that whomever is saying that disagrees with me, and I'd rather just have a real conversation about the disagreement itself rather than performatively centring the discussion around how it makes us "feel".
- awb 5y agoYou can pick and choose when to use NVC. I wouldn’t use it for a disagreement about what restaurant to go to. I would use it for a disagreement about money, sex, politics, etc. The more emotionally charged and existential the disagreement the more useful I’ve found NVC in avoiding those “real” conversations that turn into fights. Not saying it’s the only way. Some people are totally able to speak plainly with a sharp edge and then reconcile after.