> Should you change your perspective now that you've `learn[ed] of its negative impact on others`, or should I get over it and recognize that other people can h

> Should you change your perspective now that you've `learn[ed] of its negative impact on others`, or should I get over it and recognize that other people can have different opinions and I shouldn't let that affect me? The former. Microaggression is harmful not because any one instance of it hurts, but the share quantity of it is devastating. When a person experiences microaggression it might be really hard for you to empathize since the same exact behavior directed at you is not hurtful at all. Example, as a cis male with a slightly feminine look I have been mis-gendered a couple of times, it was not a big deal and I’m able to get over it fairly quickly. However for trans people this might happen so often that it overwhelms them. When someone says to you that your behavior was harmful to them you cannot possibly know exactly how that feels, and the best thing you can do is believe them, apologize, and change your behavior.