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The problem with “asshole” is that it is applied to people who are “disagreeable givers” (moral people who want to help but have abrasive personalities) as well
by satisfice 5y ago
The problem with “asshole” is that it is applied to people who are “disagreeable givers” (moral people who want to help but have abrasive personalities) as well as unethical psychopaths.
I live by a moral code, but many have called me an asshole, because I will say “you don’t know what the hell you are doing” to people I believe are incompetent (instead of smiling wanly). But I don’t steal credit or tell lies.
- skinkestek 5y agoI'm in the funny position where - on multiple occasions every month I think - I can tell people that (think for example frontend, backend, evolving code over time, actually agile development) and on multiple occasions others can do the same to me (think infrastructure, project management). I (try to at least) make sure that I praise in public and correct in private as far as possible, and I work on a team that does the same. That said, even when I worked with certain Class A's mentioned above I was happy to take advice as long as it could go both ways. When it turned out it was also "rules for thee, not for me" I got another job.
- satisfice 5y agowell said