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As someone who has worked with a couple of Class A A##holes I guess even they have to pretend they are nice when interviewing. These were both technically bril

As someone who has worked with a couple of Class A A##holes I guess even they have to pretend they are nice when interviewing. These were both technically brilliant but would backstab, take credit for others work, deflect blame, even include customers on copy when scolding me etc, so I'd definitely classify them as Class A A##holes. BTW: Are you sure you qualify as Class A? The kind of technical brilliance these guys had, combined with such utter lack of respect for others and also the galls to be totally open about not respecting others, that is quite rare...

quantified 5y ago
I thought class A meant you can turn it off when it suits your needs. OP is at best class B and probably C since they don’t know how to apply their gifts.
satisfice 5y ago
The problem with “asshole” is that it is applied to people who are “disagreeable givers” (moral people who want to help but have abrasive personalities) as well as unethical psychopaths. I live by a moral code, but many have called me an asshole, because I will say “you don’t know what the hell you are doing” to people I believe are incompetent (instead of smiling wanly). But I don’t steal credit or tell lies.
- skinkestek 5y ago
  I'm in the funny position where - on multiple occasions every month I think - I can tell people that (think for example frontend, backend, evolving code over time, actually agile development) and on multiple occasions others can do the same to me (think infrastructure, project management). I (try to at least) make sure that I praise in public and correct in private as far as possible, and I work on a team that does the same. That said, even when I worked with certain Class A's mentioned above I was happy to take advice as long as it could go both ways. When it turned out it was also "rules for thee, not for me" I got another job.
  - satisfice 5y ago
    well said

quantified 5y ago

I thought class A meant you can turn it off when it suits your needs. OP is at best class B and probably C since they don’t know how to apply their gifts.

satisfice 5y ago

The problem with “asshole” is that it is applied to people who are “disagreeable givers” (moral people who want to help but have abrasive personalities) as well as unethical psychopaths. I live by a moral code, but many have called me an asshole, because I will say “you don’t know what the hell you are doing” to people I believe are incompetent (instead of smiling wanly). But I don’t steal credit or tell lies.

skinkestek 5y ago
I'm in the funny position where - on multiple occasions every month I think - I can tell people that (think for example frontend, backend, evolving code over time, actually agile development) and on multiple occasions others can do the same to me (think infrastructure, project management). I (try to at least) make sure that I praise in public and correct in private as far as possible, and I work on a team that does the same. That said, even when I worked with certain Class A's mentioned above I was happy to take advice as long as it could go both ways. When it turned out it was also "rules for thee, not for me" I got another job.
- satisfice 5y ago
  well said