I think the only mistake you're making is believing that school only teaches curriculum. That's true for adult schools where a fully-formed adult learns from an

I think the only mistake you're making is believing that school only teaches curriculum. That's true for adult schools where a fully-formed adult learns from an expert, but it's not true for primary schools, who teach children that are rapidly forming a model of reality every second of the day. The teacher isn't teaching things like how to interact with authority, how to behave in society, how to make friends, how to have self-esteem- they may lecture on those topics with words, but the actual learning of the culture that's taking place is coming from peers, not from the teacher. A professional educator leading a course isn't the problem, the model of putting your kid in school alongside hundreds of other kids for seven hours per day is the problem. My comment was geared towards asserting that "family culture" will necessarily conflict with "schoolkid culture" if your kids spend a lot of time at school.