One thing that surprises me about the discussion of non-hetero marriage is how often it's about the sex. Sure, sex is an integral part of marriage but it's not

One thing that surprises me about the discussion of non-hetero marriage is how often it's about the sex. Sure, sex is an integral part of marriage but it's not the most important one, by far. It's much more about love and sharing life IMO. I don't understand why what happens in a private bedroom between consenting adults is such a problem.