My cbtist gave another advice (a task actually). In case your indecision comes from the fear of loss, find the chain of events that led to belief “I don’t trust

My cbtist gave another advice (a task actually). In case your indecision comes from the fear of loss, find the chain of events that led to belief “I don’t trust it/them”. Once the link is discovered, and it may not in your case, rephrase it in a way that reduces the risk. E.g. instead of “I don’t trust people in this set of opportunities”, make a rule like “I will have neither fear nor loss if I dare^ to suggest a legal contract that protects me”. Then if they agree, the fear is gone, if not - you just evaded a tricky situation. The same with choosing a smartphone: weigh all the pros and potential cons/losses and add these to your budget. If the choice goes wrong, you budgeted for it. If all is okay, that’s free money. That is my case, but as I understand it in general, our minds like to generalize and associate things, thus inducing anxiety before a choice that resembles the situations we’ve been in before. And since the mind is irrational, these generalized connections may prohibit steps to the more structured thinking and decision. But tfa’s advice is good enough as well, because in a healthy environment a fearless choice will reinforce the association with “usually nothing really bad happens either way” and break the anxiety loops of so-called protective behavior (I hope I used the correct term). But I wouldn’t recommend to use that method in a third-world to a friend. ^ another issue you may meet here is a fear to stand your ground verbally and explicitly