>>I could have structured what I said better I think this is the take-away. I'm sorry for your loss, and I suspect that it has made this topic much closer and

>>I could have structured what I said better I think this is the take-away. I'm sorry for your loss, and I suspect that it has made this topic much closer and realer for you than many other people. Whereas we are all familiar with insensitive assholes. It can be challenging to know how to best approach a situation where you think some one is being rude, without also opening yourself up for blame (or verbal abuse), in a calm and constructive manner. Even assuming good faith it would be very easy to see your original un-edited remark as some one curiously gawking at another person's tragedy. I can see that this situation is upsetting for you. It might help to reframe this by recognizing that calm, thoughtful, and articulate communication is difficult.